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Anxiety is starting to set in

Filed Under Wedding Stuffs on February 24, 2010

Wedding planning has been awesome up to this point. So fun to find the DJ, pick the colors, find the dress and start to get all the little details sorted out. We even went looking at tux’s for the guys yesterday. So fun! But the dreams have started.

The anxiety ridden dreams. Like when I worked at a restaurant and I had the dreams of getting sat 6 tables at the same time and forgetting what they all ordered. Like when I was in school and I forgot where my classes were or didn’t show up for a test I had forgotten to study for. Like my attending a fancy party but falling into a pit of mud on my way. I fall into a lot of mud in my dreams. This is why I know that I need to start breathing and figure out some stuff in order to avoid having more of these dreams. I’ve already had a few wedding related ones. I wake up in sweats.

My organization is pretty solid for the wedding. I have an Excel file with guests names and addresses. I have successfully sent out the Save the Date cards. I guess my fear right now….is that I under estimated. I have sent out more cards than I thought I was going to. My catering manager quoted me at a number that I thought I’d be able to hit, but now…I think I may be over. The worst part, is that I wont really know where I’m at until the RSVP’s start coming in….and that happens AFTER the invites go out, which is in a few months. Sacrifices on things that I had wanted at my wedding may have to be made.

I’m in a state of needing to please, and I’m in a state of sheer terror that things will be forgotten and that I will forget something major. I need to keep a list of things that have to get done in the next 5 months. I need to tier them out according to a time line. I’m getting freaked out every time I log into The Knot and the tell me how many days till my wedding. I obviously don’t need to write the menus until I know what we are eating. I don’t need to do table assignments until I know who is coming. The last few months will be filled with to-do’s. Who is in charge of making sure everything gets done the day of the wedding? I obviously will be getting pampered and dressed. Is someone that I invited going to take that role? These are all my nerves talking right now. I need to throw a good party. I want everyone to be happy. But I definitely want to make sure that I continue to have fun in this process and make the day about us….no one else.

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Yes, you have to hand over those duties on the day of your wedding. Don’t worry though. Isn’t that what friends/maid of honor/relatives are for?

And your vendors will do all that they can to make everything go smoothly for you!

It’s normal to get anxious about all of that.
.-= suki´s last blog ..Lucky =-.

What it will come down to is this….

Are you happy on your day…

Am i happy on my day….

I want everyone to have a good time, but we need to remember not to stress in making it. Ultimately its for us, and it will happen.
.-= Mick´s last blog ..High West Rendezvous Rye =-.

If I can lighten the load from afar let me know! Awesome planning so far!

When I got married (yes, I know, I’m not anymore) I got a “day of” wedding planner. She cost about $1000, but she handled all the details the month before hand and did EVERYTHING the day off… I didn’t have to do a thing (and more importantly none of my friends did either). Might be something to look into if you can spare the cash!!

i second what Liz says. We had 2 weddings—within two days of eachother…i had a day of coordinator who was $1500 and she really took over about a week before and it made everything much easier…there were problems and mix ups on the day of..but i didn’t care…and i am a control freak…so that is saying something.
also…you can figure about a third of the guests you invited won’t be able to come…so you probably didn’t send out too many save the dates…
don’t stress, don’t stress…the wedding day is just that..a day…marriage is a lifetime
stopping by from sits!
.-= Christy´s last blog ..F is for Fudge Ripple =-.

I like what Mick said above. You clearly picked a good one, Lauren. =)

Look at it this way, the guests you invite are there for three reasons – to see you guys say “I do”, dance, and eat wedding cake. There is nothing else that matters. All the little details that you might be stressing about now won’t matter on the Big Day. Whether or not the table placements are perfect or you have the perfect color flowers are not details that anyone else will even notice. OK, there might be that ONE person who does, but, whatever. Your wedding day will go by in a blur and you will forget about all those things, too. I know I did.

It might be really useful to have your Maid of Honor (if you have one) or a close relative or friend help you out. I know it helped me!
.-= Aimee @ Ain’t Yo Mama’s Blog´s last blog ..Bring In The (Night)Guards!: My Fight Against Bruxism and TMJ Disorder =-.

I loved your title and the cartoon is priceless. I have been through two weddings with my daughters. What you are feeling is normal. Sounds like you have everything under control and the right attitude. Have fun!
.-= Judy´s last blog ..A Great Green Giveaway =-.

Oh my goodness, hilarious cartoon- I love it

Mommy used to dream that Grammy planned the whole wedding and she showed up and none of her friends were invited… As to who will be making sure things go smoothly day of, that’s the venue and your maid of honor’s job! LOVE the cartoon…
.-= Cole´s last blog ..Thousand Word Thursday: Crikey! =-.

Stopping by from SITS. Sounds like you are in control of it all!! It will be fine!
.-= Denise@TogetherWeSave´s last blog ..Free Blood Glucose Meter =-.

Yes, it is so easy to worry, but know everything is under control and in the Lord’s hands. Usually only 75% actually come anyway, maybe even less. Check out my Wedding Wednesday series if you get a chance! Stopping by from SITS.
http://www.savingmoneylivinglife.com/search/label/Wedding%20Wednesday

I stopped by from SITS to check out your site. I want you to rest assured that the anxieties you have are typical for a bride. I remember when I was trying to do some of the planning for my wedding, I felt the exact same way. Just take a deep breath and remember that despite what little hiccups the day may have, as long as the love is there, it will all be just fine!

Congratulations on your upcoming nuptuals!

LOL. Wedding planning can be very challenging indeed. Love your super hero.

Just know that things will fall into place no matter. And little things usually do go wrong on the actual day and everyone will be too elated to even notice.

Stopping by from SITS.
.-= Tina Lane´s last blog ..Diva Book Review: The Life of Lana Turner =-.

I have dreams of being late to class also–every new semester! I have a feeling everything will work out better than great for you, though. It always seems to for those who stay organized. I tend to be unorganized, so I just hired a planner (and she was just starting out herself, so my choice didn’t break the bank, thank goodness). I laughed out loud at your anxiety girl cartoon. Fabulous! You should put her on a t-shirt!

It sounds like you’re doing great! The best thing you can do is try not to stress about whether people will have a good time because if you plan a fun party and *you* have a good time, your guests will love your wedding.
.-= Christa´s last blog ..The Bride Wore…What? =-.

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